Four score and two and a half years ago, Ray and I got married. At the neighborhood Starbucks. Right next to their dumpster. Out of our car.
No, I’m not kidding. See?
Yet, our commitment was as strong as a man’s cologne on his first date.
This unordinary start to the Motas is how Becoming Together, well, started.
Split in Two
In Greek mythology, humans were created with two faces, four arms, and four legs. Zeus was intimidated by their power so he split them in half condemning them to spend their lives in search of their other half.
Adam, made in God’s image, was male and female. We know this because for God to take Eve out of Adam, she had to first be in him (you can’t take something out that wasn’t there in the first place, right?).
Stay with me, I promise I’m going somewhere.
This sepration caused man and woman to be incomplete without the other. When male and female come together, they become one whole being.
Do you see the connection?
Marriage is the reuniting of the man and woman. Her femininity and his masculinity are expressed in their union.
This union becomes a picture of God’s relationship with the Church, whom He molds to become holy and spotless. That’s marriage – a relationship in which my greatest joy comes from playing a role in making Ray the man that he was made to be.
When you see marriage as completion, and embrace each other, we begin to find out who we really are. You start seeing them as your other half and that God is completing you in them.
You shouldn’t choose a mate according sexual or financial compatabilty (more on the bullcrap that is compatability another day) but because you see the work that God is doing in them and the person they’re becoming and it excites you! Your role as a spouse is to be the vehicle in them becoming who God created them to be. Anything less, and you’re just playing marriage.
Over to You
If part of what you do is just go with the flow of marriage (a flow that can go downstream quick), look at how God beautifully interprets the relationship that He wants to have with you.
He loves you though you fail Him (Romans 5:8).
He wants your relationship with Him to produce the best He has to offer (John 15:5).
He wants to be near to you (James 4:8).
His love for you is stronger than His anger (Psalm 86:15).
Shall I go on?
He paints a picture of how to love.
And it works every time.